When we think of sexuality, most of our minds go straight to our genitals. Wherever thoughts go, energy follows. Think of the unconscious and conscious associations you have with your genitals. Your sexual energy vortex might be influenced by your culture, religion, trauma, and environment. There is cellular memory throughout your body.
We all embody several energy vortexes around our bodies called chakras. The first chakra (Muladhara), which is also referred to as the “root” chakra, is located at the base of the spine by the coccyx. It is associated with survival, support, and trust. The second chakra (Svadhisthana) is located in the pelvic region and is associated to sexuality, sensuality, and reproduction. If you have negative associations with your sexuality, you might have problems. If you have experienced trauma in these regions or have a negative beliefs regarding your sexuality, other aspects in your life could be deeply affected; you may be unable to trust others and live a stable life or you might experience low energy and depression.
During lovemaking, there is the potential to release old wounds and cellular memory that is held in the tissue of the pelvic region. This might include the experiences of crying, anger, confusion, or even joy. If a couple makes love consciously with their hearts opened, repressed negative energy in the tissue has the potential to be transformed into joy. So why do so many of us rarely experience this?
We all have fantasies, but we don’t often explore the true meaning behind them. They are usually displaced just like wild or crazy dreams that we never integrate into our everyday lives. These unanswered fantasies and darker aspects within us end up being held as tension in our bodies and stress in our lives. When we hold on to repressed anger, trauma, or unknown fear, sometimes it becomes dark, hidden, unconscious beliefs and blocked energy. (When I use the word “dark” I am not attaching any negative connotations to it).
Sexuality, solo or with a partner, can act as a catalyst to elicit these guarded aspects of ourselves so they can be integrated rather than separated. Integrating the darker aspects during lovemaking can put passion back into your life, open up your creative flow, help you feel more inspired, make you a better lover, and reconnect you to your eternal source (light).
Photo credit: Gabriel S. Delgado C.